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I really loved this film.  I think there was a lot of use of the woman's gaze vs. the male gaze as evidenced in the importance of touch, intimacy, language etc. For those who felt as though the sapphic element was out of the blue, I think Old Dolio's discovery of her sexuality was done intentionally and organically. She is very aware of how the world perceives Melanie. At first Old Dolio seems a bit resentful at Melanie for inspiring feelings of lust/attraction. It causes her to feel shame (re: hot tub scene “making everyone uncomfortable” with her clothes). Very typical for a lot of budding queer folks that are internalize their shame when they see the same sex in a desirable way. As the film progresses she becomes more aware of her own needs/ wants. She gives Melanie the tooth pick at dinner when she’s ready. This shows she's not just the object of Melanie's affection, but actively inciating and demonstrating her desire (in her own way.) Modeled after her mother telling her that a wooden gift = a symbol for sexual desire.  I think that themes of familial struggle and the exploration of the toxic, addictive quality of people/family, chosen family, and trauma/healing were well explored. While the ending may have seemed a bit spelled out, I loved that Old Dolio got her closure of "they love her, but won't change and wish her well."  While it wasn't a perfect film I was pleasantly surprised with how touching and original it was. Gina and Evan's performances made it for me. I want to share it with my other queer friends without giving much away!